A Healing VBAC with the Center for Midwifery (CFM)
We’re all healing from something.
And birth often brings up a myriad of wounds and stories. From our past. About our bodies. From previous births that went differently when we planned.
Lexie reached out to me to document her second birth. A birth she hoped would be healing and redemptive. A second birth after a first birth that had been challenging, even traumatic.
Her oldest daughter had been diagnosed with Turner Syndrome in utero, as well as with some other serious complications. They didn’t know if she’d survive pregnancy or birth. Her daughter’s arrival came quickly and early at 30 weeks. An emergency c-section that couldn’t wait for anyone…not even her husband. And then there were weeks and months of a NICU stay. It was a BIG story. A story of courage, of strength, of love. A story that no doubt influenced what she wanted and hoped for this time around.
I had the honor of serving as Lexie’s doula and photographer. We connected during COVID over the phone, and I felt like I had known her years from our first conversation. I knew it was going to be a special birth for them, and I was honored to be asked to join them on their journey.
Lexie’s magical, redemptive birth ended up happening just a few weeks after I lost my fourth pregnancy. And so the entire room swirled a wide breadth of emotion. The type of emotion that comes when people choose to move towards hope. As I sat with them through late night till early morning and afternoon…I watched this new story unfold and move all of us in special ways. There were so many moments I could talk about…but I want to highlight just a few:
Lexie went into labor on her own, something she had hoped for after her first experience.
She got to work through intense contractions - also something new and desired.
Her husband was able to be present during the entire process…and watch their baby girl come into the world
There was skin-to-skin, breastfeeding, quiet moments. And so many tears of joy.
The Center of Midwifery (CFM) at the University of Colorado served this sweet family with care, compassion, and a deep awareness of what they had experienced during their first birth. I always recommend families to interview CFM if they’re looking into a VBAC. They provide exceptional care, and truly give families the type of autonomous births they’re often longing for.
I think these images will say even more than what I’ve mentioned above…what an honor to attend and hold space for this beautiful family.